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Cheers,
Viren

We have all heard stories of numerous highly intelligent and skilled executives who got promoted into a leadership position only to fail at the job.
After reading numerous research papers to figure out what makes a great leader I realized that although every great leader has his/her own style of leadership they all have something extremely important in common. Great IQ or technical skills are definitely not the dividing line between a good and a great leader but are merely threshold measures which makes an individual qualify for leadership positions.

Well, then what is that one common factor that unites all the great leaders of the world?
They all have a very high degree of Emotional Intelligence.

I don’t know why but after ages I decided to login to my blog. To my surprise, the blog is receiving 1000+ views for the past few months. That is about enough to make a mediocre writer like me feel guilty enough to not blogging for a while. The world is too kind sometimes I guess.

So, the HOT topic right now for everyone around me is, “life after college”. We’re at that point in our lives where we’re giving our last engineering exams and right after this we take the plunge into the real world. Scary. Exciting. The last month has been filled with the “one-last-time” parties. Facebook feeds are plastered with albums, “will-miss-this/that” statuses. Farewell. Batch Parties. #placed.

Everyone seems to be getting jobs, internships or post-graduation offers and yet most of them seem to be confused about what they should be doing.

Bottom line, the question everyone seems to be asking is, “Which option do I choose? And given that I make my choice, how do I know for sure that 2-3 years down the line I won’t regret it?”

Firstly, I'd like to thank Viren for giving me this opportunity to write on his blog. For those of you who don't know me, I'm a philosopher and I blog on the topic every day. I aim to help people find success in life but at the same time question the world and why we are here. Today, I'm going to share some information with regards to your purpose in life and where you are going in this crazy world.

I see it every day. People drifting through life, stuck in a dead end job, no goals or hopes or aspirations or dreams. It's sickening. Why is it so hard for people to have a dream about something they want to do with their life, you know, how they want to spend their limited days on Earth? And then why is it so hard for people to dedicate every inch of their body to that cause? Because let's face it folks, if you don't, you're going to lead an average life.

If you're happy with the 'typical' life, Birth > School > Job > Marriage > Children > Retirement, then by all means pursue that. But for those of you who want to do something different in life, follow a path few have taken, then you're going to have to work a lot harder than the aforementioned person. But believe me, your results will be all the more fulfilling.

If you're a close friend you have probably heard me say this a lot of times by now, "I'm Awesome". A lot of times friends have told me that I'm self obsessed. Some just ignore it with a "blaah" while sometimes I have actually convinced people that I am indeed 'awesome'. Last night when I used the line once again a friend asked me, "WHY!?? Why are you like this?"
So, here. I have decided to answer why I am like this, because I thought it might actually help a lot of people regardless of whether they know me or not.

I have been thinking about writing from a long time but the last few days in college have been the busiest. Let me back you up a little before coming to the reason behind Road 7. The last three days in my life has been such - I wake up at 7 in the morning, get ready for college and leave. Attend college till 5 PM. Now, I have been working for the Business Incubator in my college and we are coming up with an event, so I work on that till dinner and later reach my room only to find myself totally exhausted from the days work. With no energy left for anything whatsoever I go off to sleep. That's pretty much been the last 3 days.
No matter how tough its been in these days, it has taught me a very important lesson in life. The Value of TIME. That thick disc-like thing mounted on the wall that goes tik-tok all day is indeed of great value.

Firstly I would apologize for the long delay in my next post! I blame my college for the end semester examinations resulting in this delay.

Currently I involved myself into this company called "Menu Cards Online" which one of my friend owns. Being the Head of Operation of the company in Kolkata is probably the best way to spend my winter break this year. As you all probably know about my inclination towards having my own business, this opportunity is something that I knew would teach me a lot. Apart from what I gained from the day to day working of the company I have evolved a lot as a person, which is the motive of Road 6.

When you work you come across all kinds of people. Some will motivate you and some intentionally or unintentionally will do all it takes to pull you down. Being a responsible leader you need to deal with every one of them. Not just while working in a company, you will find such people all around you even during your day to day activities.

A couple of weeks back I came across this question, "If you had two extra hours in a day, how would you spend it?" Interesting, isn't it?
In anticipation of more opinions, I passed the question around to a lot of friends but surprisingly majority of them replied back saying that they would "sleep for those two extra hours". Some of them said that they would use it to take up a new hobby, learn new languages or meditate and the list went on. I knew my answer all along. Its just that I was waiting for some kind of inspiration to pen down my answer in words.
Yesterday, while having coffee with a friend, I overheard a conversation on the table beside ours. A girl was sitting with her boyfriend when her phone rang. She asked him to remain silent before she took the call as it was her mom. "Sorry Mom, I am Busy. No mom, not even two minutes, I said I'm busy. GOD! don't you understand. Yes, I'll call. Bye." After disconnecting the line she went on to tell her boyfriend how irritating her mother can be. "I mean how tough is it to understand that I cannot talk everyday. I am so busy. Where do I have the time?" Yet there she was EXTREMELY BUSY having coffee with her boyfriend.

If I had two extra hours in a day, I would spend it with my mother.

Our generation has come to terms with a belief that loving your mother or spending time with her is old fashion  or as they say, NOT COOL. Taking out two minutes for the person who spent her entire life on you is 'NOT COOL'. Well then I guess I am that boring and not so cool guy who would spend the two extra hours of my day with the person to whom I mean the world.
How many times have you seen something like this happen around you or happen to you?

Remember when we were in class 11 and 12? How a  major amount of time went into discussing what we want from life. Our ambitions and our life goals. There was this one friend who said that what he did in life was not a concern as long as he earned lots and lots of money. Another friend, who was crazy about computers said that no matter how much he earned he'd stick to computers all his life because it gave him happiness. So his priority was happiness. Everyone had their own separate desires. Money, a magnificent beach house, a BMW, the love of your life and so on. Everyone has a list.

Now a couple of months back I heard about this  law called "The law of Attraction". NO! It is not a law to make you more attractive. The law of attraction is a metaphysical belief that positive or negative thinking brings about positive or negative physical results. It gives you anything and everything you want. What kind of a house you want to live in? Do you want to be a billionaire? What kind of a business do you want to handle? Do you want more success? What do you REALLY want?

Everything that is coming into your life is attracted by your own self. If you think it in your mind you will hold it in your hands. So the law can be summed into three simple words "Thoughts become things".

A couple of months back I was at this party. Perfectly sober, for those of you who think I wasn't. I was standing with two of my friends when this girl came to us and shared greetings with the two of them. I introduced myself and extended my hand for a handshake. She gave me a very weird look, shook hands and left. I really didn't understand if I had done anything wrong. Anyway, months went by and now that girl is a great friend. A couple of days back we started talking about the time when we first met. She told me how at most parties she would be introduced to guys who would always end up hitting on her. Eventually she stopped interacting with new guys and limited herself to her friend group. So when I was forward enough to introduce myself to her she thought to herself that here's another guy who is going to start hitting on her. So that justified her weird expression before she left.

But now that we are friends she remains totally convinced that even if she spoke to me that night I wouldn't have tried hitting on her.

Although this was a very small incident. Nothing major. But it was enough to get me to Road 3 :)

A man looks at his office window and thinks its too dirty. He gets a handyman to clean it but nothing seems to work on the window. A few hours later he takes off his own glasses, cleans them and puts them back on only to find out that his office window is spotlessly clean.

Yes friends, its time to clean your glasses. The glasses with which you see the world.

The bad part is that our brain is already trained to judge a person by the very first look of him. Even before we talk to a person our super genius brain boasts that it already knows he is not a nice guy. The point is that we should not judge a person before we know him/her well enough. Its unfair because not only do we form a bad impression about him in our minds (for no reason at all) but we also spread it around while talking to our friends.